Is it possible to be truly
loved and seen?
Therapy for a happier coupleship
Are you wondering if your partner will ever understand you?
Are you asking yourself how much longer you two can go on like this?
Are you worn out from arguing the same way over and over, but nothing ever seems to change?
Are you starting to believe that there is no hope?
I believe that couples often get into a destructive cycle of interacting which can be hard to recover from. When you argue, it can be tough to hear what your partner is trying to say or for your partner to understand your perspective. Sometimes, couples just want to give up, because it seems like nothing will ever change.
Many couples are afraid to start couples counseling because they worry that doing therapy means the relationship is doomed or that it has failed. Another way to look at it might be that going to couple’s counseling is a way of acknowledging just how important this relationship is to you. It is worth enough that you want to try to find a new way to connect and communicate in a safe and respectful way.
Many relationships can be improved.
How does couples counseling work?
Usually, the couple will come in together for the first and possibly second appointment. At some point, I will see each one of you individually, though most sessions are held with both of you in attendance. In couples counseling, your relationship is my client, not each of you as individuals. I want to hear both of your perspectives. My goal is to help you to create a safe and secure bond, where you can truly be known and cared about by your partner.
There are three important components to having a healthy and enduring relationship.
Ask yourself how this feels for you.
1. Accessibility: Can I reach you? 2. Responsiveness: Can I rely on you to open up to me?
3. Engagement: Do I know you value me and will be there when I am falling apart?
Couple Therapy is right for you if…
You want better communication
You’re tired of the negative, repeating cycles
You are ready to look at your part in the dance
You’d like a better sex life
You’d like to raise healthier kids together
You want to change the pattern that you saw your own parents do
Frequently asked questions about couple therapy
FAQs
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An average number of sessions is 10. However, everyone is unique. You may need a tune up, or we may uncover deeper things to work on. We will figure it out together. I am your collaborator in this process.
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We would call that individual therapy, and the confidential part is different. But yes, sometimes individual therapy will help you to be a better partner in your coupleship.
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You and your partner come in together for the first session. Session two and three are individual for each of you and then all sessions after that are the three of us. I have video sessions available, which can be more convenient, but I do like to meet my clients first in person.